Over the summer everything grew in intensity.
I'd been contemplating change for a few months, just tossing it around to see how it felt. Not really committing, just trying it on a little bit to see what happened inside of me. But not really making change. And nothing changed inside of me. I was full of stress, and dread, and pressure and I was tired. Not just regular tired, but weary tired.
But let me back up.
If you've been following my life, you know that my husband was working a case (he's a lawyer) that was taking up inhumane amounts of time. Not sleeping at night and working all weekend were pretty much weekly occurrences during those 5 months. Vacations were ruined (we're still not saying the "H" word), kids were melting down, and I was doing my level best to handle everything around here, so he wouldn't have to worry about things at home (this includes trying to fix bikes, toilets, climbing into the attic, and making weighty decisions on important matters). All while trying to be a good mom, active church member and run my business.
In the end, I cracked.
I realized that something
had to change (no more just tossing the idea around) when I sat and cried at the thought of coming back from a hiatus at my parents' house. Back to
this house with all of the stress and pressure that we'd been living under. I dreaded it. And my heart hurt. And I didn't want to return to life the way I had been living it.
I've spent the last month processing and purging my life in so many ways. Kind-of a digital hiatus if you will (which is pretty astounding when you realize that my whole business is digital). I've had to make some tough business decisions - and have cut out most of my fall sessions. I haven't picked up my camera in 4 weeks. I don't answer my phone. I only answer my emails every couple of days. I don't live on FB. *gasp*
And in return, I feel like I've gained freedom.
My life has slowed down and allowed me to focus on my kids and their well-being. I spend time with them after school, instead of hoping they don't destroy the house while I sit, holed up in my office, editing.
I have also really started to focus on food and what we, as a family, are eating (and not eating). This means I am spending more time in the kitchen, preparing wholesome breakfasts, homemade granola bars and as always, lunch and dinner from scratch. I also started canning this year. Jam. Pears. And this weekend will be applesauce. It is satisfying to see those jars all lined up and to know exactly what is and isn't in them.
I am spending more consistent time exercising. And really enjoy the satisfaction of doing it.
I am committing myself more fully to my faith, both through worship and study. It was through my faith that I felt the most comfort during these long months, and it has re-kindled a strength in me that I thought was lost.
At the moment, we have 2 desks and a frame in our garage waiting for us to refinish them. WE (hubby and I) are working on them together. There is great satisfaction in that.
And I still have my half-life project to finish. And I want to have more photography projects that are just for me. But right now, I need to choose the projects that speak to my soul and let me come away feeling renewed and refreshed.
I guess that is my greatest desire, to feel whole and refreshed again. And it is coming, slowly. So if you don't hear from me for awhile. Don't worry. I am doing better. And I am living fuller. And I am loving the things that I am doing.
:)
--r

ps. the best thing about getting up early to take sunrise pictures, is getting up early to take sunrise pictures.